11th September 2012
Link reblogged from OMG! I don't believe it. with 18 notes
Headstrong, intelligent women, those who will change the world: will never say its okay to whore around and do drugs and cheat on your partner.
Because headstrong and intelligent women RESPECT themselves too much to be reduced to this kind of person.
Don’t cheat, don’t whore around, don’t do…
Firstly, no, you’re wrong entirely.
Don’t tell me what to do to make me a ‘headstrong intelligent woman’. You can be the dumbest woman on the planet and not have sex, not take drugs and not cheat and still be the least respectable and dignified person on the planet. These things are in no way mutually exclusive and it’s purely offensive that you choose to link them. What makes me a headstrong intelligent woman is my life experiences, education, environment around me and hard learnt lessons; everything that has formed me into the woman I am today and I wouldn’t take back for the world.
If I want to be promiscuous and have sex with whoever I choose to do so safely and with consenting partners, it doesn’t change the fact that I’m still an intelligent headstrong woman. Having lots of sex doesn’t make me less respectable or respect myself less. And if I want to save it for one person for the rest of my life, that’s my decision as well. It’s not for you to rubber stamp people into categories of Madonna and Whore. It really isn’t.
Also, don’t compare a man beating his girlfriend to a woman cheating on her boyfriend. They’re in totally different leagues. So you can take your slut shaming back into whatever little crevice of the internet you came from and keep it to yourself thank you very much.
Never mind being ‘mindful of your actions’ be mindful of the offence you can cause with hateful words about a person you don’t know and the venom you’ve come out with to describe her. Hardly a ‘dignified’ or ‘respectful’ action, is it? I’m not saying what she’s done is right. It isn’t, not in a long shot. But have a little retrospection about how you treat others before you go judging them.
What Kristen Stewart did might not be cool. It doesn’t change the fact she is an human being, who made a mistake in a relationship that’s not really our business.
And the reason what Chris Brown did and what Kristen Stewart did, has less to do with the individual actions (although still, as said above, not comparable. She broke someone’s heart. Chris Brown broke someone’s face. Don’t really compare.) and more, as it is important to us (besides want for celebrity gossip) to do with the way people react to it.
People should not be defending someone who beat up his girlfriend, and than bragged about it up to, and including, getting a tattoo of a beaten woman on his neck. And society, as a whole, is telling people to sit down and shut up and not get worried over the fact that in this society it’s cool for a man to celebrate his beating of one young lady, while it’s ok for another young woman to have her life raked through the coals (and fired!) for cheating.
Both actions are complicated, and between the two couples and we can’t know the ends and outs of everything because we aren’t them (even if both seem pretty black and white to us, but whatever) and technically don’t impact us personally.
One however, had turned into a pop culture glorification of abusing woman. And that is something to get worried about, not tell woman to keep their legs shut over. And there other has turned into a pop culture witch hunt. What she did wasn’t cool, and I feel terrible for Rob Pattinson. But she’s also been turned into some evil wicked witch over it and she’s not. She’s someone who made a personal mistake.
And also, I think Claire covered this part pretty thoroughly but cheating=/=being promiscuous with knowing partners. Like…what? Those don’t compare.